The Wandering Eye

Among the many things that can ignite a heated discussion on an otherwise peaceful day is the issue of the ‘wandering eye’. Our make-believe couple, Jim and Heather, are walking down the street hand in hand on a Saturday afternoon. As Heather is talking about the various things that went on during the week Jim [...]

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The Synergy Effect on Relationships

Synergy is a funny thing. It basically says that “1+1=3″. How can this be? Well, simply put, synergy is the observation that two agents combined produce greater results than could be obtained by those same agents separately. Let’s say you wanted to plant a garden but there was a huge boulder in the center of [...]

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Keeping or Ending A Relationship

We’ve all been there at some point in our lives… meeting that special someone who becomes more and more the brightest part of our life. What we hope for of course is that the relationship will grow with an increasing level of mutual love and commitment for years to come. But sometimes, out of nowhere [...]

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Rules of Courtship

It’s amazing how complicated things can get. But deep down I still believe there are basic principles that can guide us if only we will give them the credit they are due. Today we’ll take a look at the simple matter of courtship. Simple in theory anyway. It’s when we’re in the throes of its [...]

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Relationships

I had a conversation with a female friend of mine about relationships and why they do or don’t seem to work out. We were in the midst of moving her furniture out from the house her and her now ex-fiancé had planned to move into after marriage. Out of left field somewhere I came up [...]

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Before You Say, “I do.”

As a Single person much thought and activity is put into finding the right mate. We focus on getting along well with that person and ironing out differences so the whole relationship moves along smoothly and enjoyably. It is usually after reaching this point that the idea of marriage begins to pop up. Usually the [...]

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Beyond Mutual Desire

In an earlier article we took a look at ‘mutual desire’. Here we’ll focus on what follows after the issue of ‘mutuality’ has been established. During the process of finding a lifelong helpmate we go through certain phases in developing the relationship. Though there are many we’ll just look at those that apply to our [...]

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Mutual Desire

Being as how this was an abnormally busy week I found myself with lots of ideas running through my mind and little time to write them out, articulate them or even discuss them at length with anyone. But one common thread ran through the various ponderings and it came down to the issue of ‘the [...]

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Permission To Breakup?

I really enjoy a good love ballad. Any good, sappy love song actually. Believe it or not James Brown has a beautiful ballad titled, “Try Me” that just gets me every time. Perhaps you’ve heard it. But there’s one group of love songs that trouble me every time I hear them. They usually have lyrics [...]

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Maturity Mismatches

In the course of sorting through the aftermath of a dear friend’s break-up with her boyfriend this week, the issue of maturity compatibility arose. I thought about some of my break-ups, those of others and how the difference in maturity played a role. I noticed that being at the same level of maturity, not necessarily [...]

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