When The Light Comes On

It’s amazing how much your perspective can change with some good conversation and a plate of manicotti. I was having dinner last night with a good friend of mine and we got to the subject of ‘giving and taking’ in a relationship. In that context we remarked how so often what is obvious to those [...]

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What Do You Want?

After several discussions with various people during a recent vacation I’ve come to a disturbing conclusion that continues to show itself repeatedly through the years. It is the great disparity that exists between what we ‘say’ we want and what we actually ‘do’ when we have a choice set before us. I’ve been noticing this [...]

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Supply & Demand

I’ve noticed something strange these last few months so I decided to ask around and see if I could make some sense of it. What I found was that for many people there is this strange, backwards occurrence that I have dubbed ‘Supply & Demand’. Looking back over my last six years or so as [...]

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Meeting the Opposite Sex

“I’m going to make at least one new friend, each week.” Such were the ambitious words of one of my near and dear friends three years ago. She’s a lovely, young woman. Articulate, energetic, fun, conversational and very enjoyable company. I figured she’d have no problem easily meeting or exceeding her goal. In speaking with [...]

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Online Dating Services: Pros & Cons

Ask someone what they think about using a ‘personals’ ad and you are likely to get into as big a discussion as religion or politics. Perhaps because it is viewed as anything from tampering with fate to a practical way of meeting that elusive mister or missus ‘Right’. Let’s begin with what’s out there. Before [...]

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‘Machismo’: What is it?

I’m torn as to whether this topic is more sad or humorous. It concerns the issue of ‘Machismo’. At least that’s what it’s called in Latin cultures and many parts of North America. Loosely defined it is the label used to describe that standard by which many men rate their own masculinity. Their virility, strength, [...]

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The ‘Nice-Guy’ Self-Check

Usually, at night’s end, one of my favorite places to browse before logging off the Internet is the Newsgroups/soc.singles site. For those unfamiliar with it, the Newsgroups are a collection of places on the Net where people can post/respond to various topics on what amounts to a very large, 24-hour, global bulletin board. Imagine a [...]

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Stalkers & Harrasment: No Mercy

For the most part we have dealt with the sort of disposition and character that promotes and encourages a loving relationship in our lives. However, due to the world in which we live, there are times when the aftermath of what was once hoped to be our joy becomes our greatest anxiety. It is in [...]

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Love At First Sight

I read an article years ago concerning how this couple had met. It was during the 1940′s and this man was out looking for a job. He saw an ad in the paper for a dockperson needed so he arrived at the dock for the job only to get in line with about a hundred [...]

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Like A Tuna Fish Sandwhich

I was at the vending machines again, where I work.. picking out some breakfast since I’d once again been running late through the day. As I checked out the two and three day old selections of sandwiches, bagels and burritos I was reminded of a conversation I had with a good friend, Alicia, about a [...]

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